I need a little help. I need advice on how to tell a friend he has a drug
problem.
He's a good guy who I've known for about 3 years now...but his
coke use has gone from the occasional use of shne (pronounced SHUH-nay), to
crack. I had to deal with him, uber-paranoid, telling me there were people
trying to break into my apartment tonight.
How do you break it to someone without alientating them?
I'm in a tough spot. I figure brutal b0ggite truth might help me.
Thanks for all your advice and support, b0g nation. You've given me
the resolve to confront my friend, and try and help in some way. Who knew
you good get such good stuff from such a sick, twisted community.
posted by Wit on Wednesday 14th June 2006, 23:35:01
The one on your buddy's back is
his, not your's. Until he wants it gone, he'll do everything he
can to keep it there.
Tell him that you care about him &
that you're sincerely worried. Let him know that you're there to
help him & that you're going to take some proactive steps to learn
more how to deal with him & his addiction.
Apeal to his
rational mind. Show him where his current way of being is self destructive
& will eventually cost him big time. Encourage him to suffer the
change of lifestyle now as opposed to in the future when the price will be
much higher & he'll have travelled even further down the coke
road.
Tough stuff & a tight spot you're in. (Hold on,
I gotta bubble the 'ol blue bong.....)
AAaaackkkk,
kkkooofffff, kofffff!! :-0
When your friend wants to get
clean, he will. You'll be there along the way supporting him to that
goal. The hard part is not becoming an enabler. Work hard on that &
help his other friends learn to do the same.
take a hammer and break all his fingers , then punch him as hard as you can
in the mouth repeatidly , with no useful fingers and broken jaw its gone be
pretty damn difficult for him to take the drug * repeat as nesessary *
Hm.. i know that problem of a friend of mine who abuses alcohol on a daily
basis. Problem is that you can tell these people whatever you want they
still wont quit. Drugs are bad is the only conclusion OR you tell him that
you quit the friendship because of his drugabuse. Maybe thats a wakeup for
him and you actually make him reconsider his problem.
Thelula on Thursday 15th June 2006, 15:33:22 (#35663)
Ok, drugs are not good for you. Some people, though, enjoy them and
don't harm others while enjoying them. There are a couple of questions
to answer before you tackle your friend on this issue. Does your friend
hold down a job and enjoy his drug on the weekend only? If so, like many
others, this is his way of letting his hair down and if you don't like
it then mix with different people. If, on the other hand, he doesn't
work and lives only for his drug then yes, you should say "Listen,
I'm really concerned about your drug-taking".
He holds down a great job, but it used to be just weekends. It also
used to be just coke, now he's smoking crack.
I figure I have to talk to him about it frankly, and like RAE
mentioned, not become an enabler. I don't know how he'll
react, but I've got to take the hardline on this before he pisses
everything away.
Yeah, good luck , Wit, hope the conversation goes
smoothly. One thing's for sure, he's lucky to
have a friend like you - someone who cares enough to
speak up when the warning signs are spotted. Let us
know the outcome of your chat.
Need advice.
